I’ve heard it said that most people usually never complete their News Years goals. So, I thought I’d take a look back to see how I did. Considering that I forgot about a few of these doesn’t make me think that I did really well.
From my resolutions post. (You can read the complete resolution here.):
Be more Compassionate. Compassion for myself and Miss Sensory. I’ve learned this year that I am beyond tough on myself. I expected myself to be better at parenting. I thought I wouldn’t feel like a failure so often. I sometimes forget that Miss Sensory takes in all the sensory information in the outside world and appears like she is handling it all and then later explodes and I get mad. I need to be reminded that her battle is just as hard as mine.
Overall, I think did better at this during 2016 it’s a hard line to draw sometimes between behavior and disorder. I know that this life isn’t just tough for us as parents it’s also really hard for our diagnosed kids. I really did better at having more compassion for myself!! I learned become more OK with our life and accept that this is it, I’m still not 100% there but I’ve made a lot of progress.
An example of calm instead of anger.
If there is anything in life that I feel like I am doing well, I’d say this! I still have my moments that these disorders make me more mad than anything but I hold it in so much more.
I’ve done better at this during this last quarter of 2016 and I’ve got a few big plans of how I am going to make this a part of our life for 2017.
This was a definite change in our life this year. We took life a lot slower, we weren’t in such a race to the next therapy treatment. We really hibernated at home a lot.
Parent how I need to not how I thought I would, or how I think others think I should.
This is definitely an area where I have grown a lot this year. A big part of this is being around other parents less I think. That has made me stronger as a parent.
From my goals post (You can read the full post here.):
Create something, I had intended to do Journal 52 throughout the year but I only made through week 2 🙁
Exercise daily. I have really failed at this year, I’ve battled a few major health issues and they won this year! This month again I’ve picked back up with Holy Yoga and of course plan for more in 2017!
Sleep, the plan was to work on going to bed at 9pm. YAY… that never happened.
Time to myself. This is something I’ve done really well at this year!
I did really well the first 6 months of the year meeting these goals but…
At least one over night a month. This has gotten non existent, mostly from feeling guilty asking for this.
Baby sitter every other weekend. This is also non existent.
At the start of 2016 we had Occupational Therapy (at home and skype check ins), Vision Therapy (at home plus check in appointments every 8 weeks), Speech and Language (Tied in with Occupational Therapy at home starting in January), Psychologist (play therapy at home, check in with therapists as needed).
Decisions we were needing to make were:
-another trip to the Star Center in Denver for this year. (We decided against going again after realizing it wasn’t working).
-a DIR floortime training class for us (furthering the therapy we learned in Denver) and to find a Certified Therapist here. (We did start classes and decided that they wouldn’t be effective in helping us complete this therapy at home. We did look for a DIR therapist and the nearest one was 2 hours away and not covered by any insurance).
-hire a maid to relieve some of my stress so that I can focus more on Miss Sensory’s therapy, since I am it (we are traveling for therapy less so this is one thing we could add to help me). (This was the absolutely best thing we have done EVER!! It has helped our family so much).
– For us as parents- we are going to be working on coping strategies and managing our stress this year with Miss Sensory’s Psychologist. (We are still continuing to work on this and I am afraid it’s going to be a long process).
At the start of 2016 I started this savings plan and made it about 6 months in, then we needed the money for something and that was the end of it.
I did end up taking on two extra side jobs in 2016 to help us achieve some of our financial goals.