I don’t know about you but I am a self-care failure! Sensory Dad says I am the best at not taking care of myself. I made this mistake over Thanksgiving break. I was too busy worrying about managing Miss Sensory and trying to keep her regulated while she was home for 7 days, I was so stressed out about it that I didn’t even think to take care of me. I’ve learned from my mistake and plan on making Christmas different.
Self-care for me sometimes is more about my mindset and less about the doing. Because, let’s face it time for myself is so small and a pedicure just isn’t enough to relax myself into Holiday bliss.
Here’s the 6 ways I’ll be making sure that I take care of me during the Holidays…
- Let go. This is a big one for me. I’m a perfectionist, type A, I like a plan and I like everything done perfectly. So, for the Holidays this year. I am doing less and I am enjoying it more! My focus isn’t on getting the perfect gift but making really good quality family memories.
- Make a little time for me. This is the hardest, when you have a husband who works a lot and a high needs child it’s a challenge. But I’ve made some small time in my schedule especially close to Christmas and New Year’s, just for a treat for me.
- Make peace with meltdowns. Meltdowns are going to happen. They are a part of this life. No matter what I do or how much I try to avoid them, they are going to happen. I’ve learned to disconnect my frustration with them and accept that they are here, whether or not I like it.
- Sleep. You know when you have a baby and they say to sleep when they sleep, I still haven’t learned how to do that. Miss Sensory sleeps best early into her bedtime, but what am I doing during that time… usually work or housework. I need to get better at going to sleep earlier so I can get better sleep.
- Don’t compare. This was not the life I had planned, and sometimes it’s hard for me to see other families being able to do things that we aren’t able to do. But, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. It’s a slow process of owning and loving where we are at. It’s saying no to events that I know would be too much and loving the things that we have the most fun doing.
- Be gentle with yourself. You know as a sensory mom, I am so tough on myself. Between making sure I’m understanding all the diagnosis and doing all the right things sometimes I just need to learn that just being a Mom is enough. I’m pretty irreplaceable and more often than not I feel like I’m not enough. When will I learn… sometimes the simplest things like getting down on the floor to wrestle (yes, with my girl and totally out of my comfort zone), gives her the most joy.