If you’ve followed me for a while you know that my belief is that meltdowns are going to happen. They are just a part of this whole neurologically different life. I have accepted them as a part of our life and they will probably always happen. YAY!
The great thing about school, is that it means that I have several hours away from Miss Sensory to recover and prepare for meltdowns. But those hours of bliss are sandwiched between the most difficult hours of our day. I have to get Miss Sensory through a lot of necessary pieces to her day. Getting ready and getting to school. And then homework time and bath and bed time.
Just a reminder that in our house, Miss Sensory, holds all her meltdowns in at school and lets it all out only around us at home. Not all sensory kids are this way some are the opposite. I can only share from my experience but if you have a child that has meltdowns at school please leave any tips in the comments!
I don’t know how your mornings go but ours were often like dragging myself out of bed after a horrible night of sleep (thanks to Miss Sensory) and pushing snooze 20,000 times, I found myself stressed and saying, “We have to hustle!” over and over. You can about imagine how this didn’t really help decrease the meltdowns in the morning.
One of the best things that helped me prepare for school was taking Crystal Paine’s course Make over your Mornings. I was able to clearly lay out everything we needed to do in the mornings and make a plan for how to get it done. I was less overwhelmed and more prepared for the mornings.
On those days where she is completely off I pull out this handy visual schedule and simply point to the tasks that she needs to get done. The toughest part of the morning routine is not letting being behind schedule or late stress me out. The key to keeping meltdowns at bay is often more to do with me staying calm at this point of the day.
Prep for as much as you can the night before.
I think it’s a fine line between having your child get their things ready and you doing it for them. I generally take the morning prep and have Miss Sensory do the evening prep, but I don’t hold on to it that she has to do it. If she has a very off day, I do it without saying anything to her. Don’t be afraid to let go if you have to!
I’ve heard that kids either love homework or hate homework. We had optional daily homework last year, but chose to do it daily to keep up with routine.
Set up a homework station. A place at home that is the go to spot for homework daily. For us it’s our kitchen table. We usually have a snack at the same time.
Gather everything that is needed for your kiddo.
Make it fun, have some themed pencils, fun erasers you name it.
Reward: I’m a sensory mom, there’s no shame in my game, I properly motivate when needed with a reward. Miss Sensory is really motived with fun things so we use that as a reward. For example, if it’s tough we will do one side of homework and break for playing catch with mom or when homework is complete we will play a video or card game with mom or dad.
Have a general plan for after school as set by your child, I mentioned this yesterday, let them decide at the beginning of the year when they will be doing their homework. Make it non-negotiable.
In the next few days we will be talking more about tips to help your child, before and after school routine and homework tips. Stop back to read the entire series.