This is day 10 in 31 days to Loving Sensory Parenting. You can read all the posts here.
Loving sensory parenting sometimes means learning to let go. Something easier said than done. The biggest struggle for me is letting go of my expectations. Sometimes, it even means letting go of how I expect a brain to work. Things like, wearing pants and long sleeve shirts when it’s 20 below out. Because her body doesn’t register the cold but I need to teach her what she does need to do for safety versus what her body feels.
Sometimes, it means letting go of my to do list to throw 300 balls out of the ball bit because it has become sheer joy for Miss Sensory. And the fact that Mom is sitting in the ball pit with her doing just that instead of telling her no we can’t do this, gains the biggest smile and the biggest connection.
It means letting go of trendy fashionable girls clothes (did you know my career was in the fashion industry?) and accepting clothes that are comfortable. Letting your child dress herself is another story, yesterday she picked out plaid Christmas leggings, a pink shirt with purple glitter letters, neon green socks and a leopard hair bow.
Letting go of some days that we will lose the battle and sensory meltdowns are inevitable.
Letting go of the never ending questions in my head of why Miss Sensory has to struggle with this. Or the How, the what, what if and if only.
Letting go means living in the moment. It means enjoying every second, the good and the bad. It means releasing everything I thought parenting would be for everything that I have gained. It means loving the unique journey that we are on and focusing on more important things than to-do lists, fashionable outfits and perfect parenting.