Today is day 23 in the series 31 days to Loving Sensory Parenting. You can read the entire series here.
Confession: I am a perfectionist. I like do all things well. I like to succeed. I REALLY do not like failure. For most of my life I can remember if I couldn’t do something well, I didn’t want to do it at all. I stuck with things that I knew I could be successful with.
Then parenting happened. And I quickly learned how easy it is to feel like a failure all the time and to not feel like a success. And then there’s sensory parenting, which I categorize more into simply, YOU WILL FAIL.
Sensory parenting is a moving target. You think you have all the right pieces fitting together and then boom, something new comes up.
You figure out the pants that feel just right. You find the shoes that are tight enough.
And then BOOM: the once loved jacket is being refused to be worn.
It’s this impossible battle that I don’t have all the answers for. That the experts we work with don’t have all the answers for.
What will help get Miss Sensory more sleep?
What will help her know that she is full, instead of hungry all the time?
It’s a reality that I’ve come to terms with I will fail. It’s tough for me to accept.
But the new way to look at is an opportunity. It’s an opportunity for me to connect with Miss Sensory and problem solve the situation. It’s an opportunity for me to help her recognize what is going in her body and what she is feeling. It’s an opportunity for me to learn and grow as a mom. To accept that I am not perfect and that I can’t do everything perfectly.