Today is Day 25 in the series 31 Days to Loving Sensory Parenting. You can check out the entire series so far here.
When you adopt, people ask you weird questions. And it’s ok, most of the time they make me laugh. I get asked two common questions when I tell people about our daughter having Sensory Processing Disorder. First, they ask what it is, that’s to be expected most don’t know what it is. Second, they ask if we knew at birth. You see we adopted our daughter at birth and to answer the question, no we didn’t know. It’s not something you know about when babies are born. It’s not something you can “see” or “tell” if they have.
The question I feel like people are trying to ask though is did you expect this?
Sensory Processing Disorder was not something that I expected. I had waited so long to be a mom and had wanted it so much, and no it was not what I expected.
I didn’t expect that continuing to put non-food objects in the mouth would last past 2 years old.
I didn’t expect that we would have multiple therapy appointments a week.
I didn’t expect that we would have an aggressive child.
I didn’t expect that we would be special needs parents.
But you know what, I love this journey. I don’t love the difficult and I don’t love the disorder. But I love my daughter more than anything and I love how this has changed us all. How it has made us stronger together.
The reality, I think, for most of us adults is that life isn’t what we expected. I don’t know anyone whose life went the way they expected it to go. Mine is definitely far from it.
It’s what we do with the way we expected life to go and the way that life is that makes the difference. It’s carrying the grief you feel of a diagnosed child and finding hope for the future. It’s about perseverance and holding on tight to moments of joy. It’s about one day at a time, without expecting more. It’s about living in the moment and enjoying the journey.