Today is day 29 in the series 31 Days to Loving Sensory Parenting. You can read all the posts here.
Yesterday, we talked about taking a day off for you. You can go back and read that here.
Today we are going to talk about taking a day off for your marriage. This may be more challenging that just getting a day off for you. But our marriages, are vital to our family life. And more than we put ourselves last as moms, often our marriages get put even further behind in our priorities.
Remember that feeling you felt when you were falling in love. Everything felt like you were on top of the world, nothing could come in between you. Then, stress happened. Parenting a special needs child, is a challenge, it makes everything difficult. Including maintaining a marriage.
So what do I mean by taking a day off for your marriage? Think about when you take a day off for a vacation. It means you get out of your regular schedule, it means doing something different. It means delaying the things you need to do and doing a couple of things you want to do or that you enjoy. It’s a day to not think of all the things I have to do and let my mind relax.
As a couple, what do you wish you had more time for? Each other (don’t we all wish we had more time for each other)? Date nights? Doing an activity together? Watching a movie?
If an entire day is out of reach for you to take off, think of it in a smaller chunk, after bedtime, before your kids get up. Take some time off (off from stress, life, jut be together).
1. Don’t talk about the kids, or work, or the house.
2. Dream together, reflect, and ask questions.
3. Be sensitive to anything stressful, and don’t allow your minds to go there. Remember you are taking a day (or moment) off from stress!
Simple ideas to take time off together:
1. Watch a movie.
2. Get a project done.
3. Watch the sunset.
4. Drink wine.
5. Play a game.
6. Grab a late night snack!