This is Day 5 of 31 days to Loving Sensory Parenting, you can start at the beginning and follow the journey here.
I was actually planning to write on something else tonight. But this just seems more fitting. I promise this is my last post in this series on support. Tonight, we had a parent and child night at Miss Sensory’s school and in typical fashion I was on my own (Raise your hand if you are a work widow!).
There were a couple major challenges with this. One, Miss Sensory goes to bed at 6:00 (that story is for an entirely different post) and this parent and child meeting didn’t even start until 6:30. Two, this would mean her entire after school schedule would be different and she would be short 2 hours of sleep. So, normally I would have a pretty tough time with this. I would be frustrated that my husband wasn’t there to help. Today, I was determined to do this no matter how hard or what kind of fall out. I put my mind over matter and told myself I can do this!
So, what does this have to do with a support system? Well, sometimes you just have to be your own support system.
Seriously, when your tribe falls apart and all that really is left is you. When your husband or significant other can’t be there or doesn’t help out. I really think you can be your biggest supporter, as cheesy as that sounds. You have a choice, you can either be better or be bitter. I choose to be better. I’ve spent far too long in the bitter end.
I know the negative voices so well of feeling like I can’t make it through another second. In fact, I was there today it was a tough morning. I dropped everything, let my husband take over and said I need a minute!
But if you take a few seconds by yourself (even if it’s just in the bathroom, because let’s face it they will be right on the other side of the door). Take a couple deep breathes and tell yourself that you can do it. Think of 3 activities that you can try doing with your child. One’s that aren’t chores, that aren’t work, ones that you would enjoy and your child would enjoy. Right them down and do them with your child as soon as you can. Aim for letting go and having fun! Get silly and out of your comfort zone (Trust me it works, I had learn how to do this. I am the most uptight person and it’s completely out of character for me!!!)
Loving Sensory Parenting sometimes means you have to cheer for yourself when no one else will.