Today is Day 6 in the 31 day series to Loving Sensory Parenting. You can start at the beginning and read the previous post here.
Think of your best most cherished moment you’ve had with your child. What were you doing? How were you feeling? There’s a picture I have in my house of me with Miss Sensory as a baby, she was about 6 months old. I’m holding her in the air and we both have the biggest mouth wide open smiles. I love that picture as it was one of the last seasons I remember having of true joy.
Anyone else feel like sometimes parenting a child with sensory processing disorder sucks all the joy out of life? No, is it just me? Between the meltdowns, therapy appointments and getting daily living tasks done you are both feeling absolutely spent? I am!
But we’ve made something new a priority in our parenting that we learned a little bit more about while we were at the Star Center in Denver, Co this summer. We learned about these ooey-gooey moments as parents that we can have with our kids.
Remember, I asked you to remember a moment above and how you were feeling? That was one of those ooey-gooey moments, those spark joy! So how do you get more of those? The ins and outs of getting those moments will vary from child to child.
But the bottom line is the relationship connection. Since I’ve changed this in our parenting, I feel like I’m finally getting to fully ENJOY parenting and ENJOY Miss Sensory again.
My top tips to build ooey-gooey moments into your day.
- Meet your child where they are at. Does your child like small dark places right now? Ask if you could built a tent in the living room with them.
- Release your expectations. Let go of how YOU think this time should go, follow your child’s lead.
- Focus on play and play alone. Put down your to do list shut off your phone. Don’t think about the dishes that need to be cleaned or answering your phone.
One of the best things in life is seeing that smile on your child and those sometimes rare moments of eye contact. Treasure them, work for them. Build more of them every day.
If you want to get deeper into the ins and outs I highly recommend this book, not only for Autism but for all children! If you want to develop this further you can look to find a therapist who is certified in the DIR Floortime approach. You can search for a therapist and find more information regarding this approach here.