Have you ever realized that on days when you have no plan you may not get much done? I’ve set out this year to get things done. This may or not be interesting to you, but as a way to keep myself accountable I thought I would blog about it. Because why not?! So… this is the first of monthly updates.
So far, 2020 has been really productive. I needed this. 2020, started for me with a health scare that for the first several weeks of January I didn’t really know what my future would be. I’ve learned that if I have some kind of direction of where my life is going, something to focus on, things to accomplish I ultimately do better. I feel better about life and helps me be more consistent.
So far this year by being intentional we’ve added a lot of more meaningful moments into our family life. We’ve started watching Family Matters together, Miss S has loved Urkel. It’s been a great way to relax as a family and the show brings up topics that we can talk about and learn from. For Christmas we each got a new devotional and we set aside time together as a family to read and Miss S loves telling us what hers was about. We’ve also started reading the novel Wonder together as a family. These activities have brought a lot of calm, much needed family time into our chaotic life.
Goal setting and intentionality is a big part of a project I’m working on for Sensory Mom Secrets. In case you haven’t heard, I’m writing a course. It’s really an IEP plan for moms because we need one too. It’s my tried and true system that’s kept me going and together all these years through some really difficult times. You can sign up to hear more about that here.
These monthly goals are all based on our yearly goals, our current priorities and the season of life we are in, which are all things I go over in my course. So, what were my goals for this month?
Finish writing Your Best Life Now course. Almost done!
Consistently post on social media. I did this!
Create new content. I failed at this. Creating new content takes time and energy which sometimes I don’t have.
Photo Ledges. This did not get done.
This is what I want:
Images and DIY project from The Idea Room.
We’ve got this large blank wall currently above our new sectional and I ordered 8 foot picture ledges to go above them. I literally sent a purchase order (it’s his business so I thought it might work LOL) to my husband for these to be made, delivered, and installed by January 31. And… he did not get it done.
Photobooks Age 8 – completed but not printed.
Photobooks Age 7 – completed but not printed.
One of my goals this year is to complete all of the photobooks, I have only completed and printed her birth year and age 3.
Long Arm Half Blue Sampler – I only got a ¼ of this quilt finished.
Finish Bonnie Hunter Mystery Quilt Samples – Almost done.
My dad likes to say that quilting chose me I didn’t chose it. My sister and I have been working on my mom’s unfinished quilt projects since she passed away in 2017. It’s been both therapeutic and a great creative outlet. We also participate in a mystery quilt project that my mom would do every year.
Save extra check this month.
Stick within the budget.
We’ve got big financial goals this year and so far we are off to a great start. It hasn’t been perfect but we are being much more intentional and this month we have broken a lot of our bad money habits! We met these goals, we didn’t save as much as we’d hoped but we did better than we have in the past so it’s a win!
What Miss S is working on:
This month we have worked on being able to shower independently. This has been really difficult for her mostly due to anxiety. She has done really well transitioning to this and we have made huge steps. We are now able to help her get started and she’s able to take care of things from there. It’s amazing to be able to leave and let her be in charge for this.
We started working on learning how to swallow pills this month. I decided to start this goal next because doing so would alleviate one of our tasks as parents in having to grind up her pills. We started with this method and used sprinkles. It worked great, by the third sprinkle she was swallowing them down like a champ.
Miss S Goals:
To learn how to do laundry.
To learn 20 signs in sign language.
We’ve started talking with Miss S about setting goals. She chose these goals herself and she set the timeline of June to work on them. I really have no idea why she’s interested in either of these but I love being able to support her in her interests.
The other thing I’ve really learned in working on these goals with her is that creating step by step plans, is extremely difficult for her so it’s been a great way to work on that. It was a natural experience that created an instant problem for her to solve (how are you going to learn 20 signs), another great skill to work on!
The author Amy Morin, is not only a therapist but also a therapeutic foster parent. This book challenged me but also made me feel like I’ve done everything wrong. It definitely has stretched some of my thoughts on parenting and for that I highly recommend it with the preface of being prepared to feel bad about your parenting. You can’t take back choices that you have made but you can change your future.
This book right now is FREE if you have kindle unlimited. It was highly recommended to me in learning more about anxiety and understanding what happens. The first section of the book is an in-depth look at what happens physically in the body, so if you aren’t a fan of reading textbooks that may be difficult to get through. I haven’t finished this book yet but the following sections have been really helpful in learning more about anxiety and thinking about ways to help Miss S process it.
A look into February:
Miss S to be able to adjust water temperature of shower.
Miss S to be able to start washing machine.
Blog: Finish Course, publish new content weekly, social media consistency.
Photobooks: Start and finish age 6.
Quilt: Finish Sampler.
Marriage: Decide on marriage goals.
Family: Take one overnight trip.