Sometimes as special needs mom’s (even typical mom’s) we spend so much time taking care of other’s that we forget to take care of ourselves and we forget what our needs are. So today I’m going to challenge you to be a little selfish (yes it’s ok!!).
I don’t know about you but most of my time is spent attempting to get Miss Sensory to function at an optimal level (meaning her best). It takes a ton of work and effort on my part to get her to do that. Simple things like daily living activities are really a chore! They aren’t fun and when she’s really off its almost impossible. I know the first thing you are probably thinking is that you don’t have time for you, I completely get that. But it really is the most important thing we could do as parents, so you have to make it a PRIORITY!
In parenting, I always have the image in my head of safety protocols, you know like when you are on an airplane or boat with your child. You are always supposed to put your oxygen mask or life jacket on yourself first and then your child.
Because if something happens to you there’s no way you can help your child.
That is my secret rule in parenting.
If Momma goes down no one is going to get anywhere! (Think about when you are sick, does it seem like everything falls apart, or is that just at my house?!?). The house turns into a disaster, everyone is a crying, it’s utter chaos!
So in order for me to be at my best I need to take time for me! Here are 3 keys to follow to be at your Mommy best:
- Take some time to think about what YOU need to function at your best. (We do this for our kids it’s our time). Think of it as the mommy IEP! Do you need a clean house? Do you need less stuff? Do you need more time outside the home? Write it down, make a list and post it somewhere! Start small, start with achievable goals. Maybe it’s as simple as having a clean kitchen before bed every night!
- That list that you just wrote. Make it a priority! Make it intentional. Choose to do one thing on our list before you relax in the evening. Start doing some of those things that you need and I guarantee you will start feeling more alive!
- Now think about things in life that make you happy. What do you have the most fun doing? What makes you feel refreshed? Make a list and a plan. Plan on incorporating at least one thing a week that makes you smile and feel great about life. Maybe it’s doing your nails or even getting your nails done once a week. Maybe it’s getting to go to Target alone! When it’s a really tough day, sometimes it’s as simple as making sure you get dressed, have ate something and brushed your teeth. You know what I mean. Because beyond that it just isn’t going to happen today. But when you’ve got a little one screaming for lunch and you just want an ice cold drink of water for yourself (I love ice water so I’m serious on this one. But you may need something else, like chocolate). Get that water (or chocolate) for yourself first!!
The biggest key to success is keeping your list simple and attainable. Make it happen. Make it a priority. When you are at your best, everything else will fall into place. You will be more patient with your little one. You will have more time to play with them and be able to give them your fullest attention, because you’ve taken care of yourself first.